Most of the problems in marriages stem from finances. This is a fact that I have experienced in my own marriage many times. My husband and I disagree over finances a lot.
A few days ago, my husband and I had a disagreement over what to do with some money that we had received as a Christmas gift. He was planning on spending his part of the money (which was more than half) on a couple of things that he wanted to buy for himself, but I wanted to put all of the money toward a couple of bills that we need to pay.
We started to argue about it, but we decided to discuss it rationally instead. We decided to use half of it towards bills, and the rest of it could be used on the items that my husband wanted to buy (as long as he bought me something small too).
This discussion kept my husband and I from arguing the rest of the evening about money, and we can both feel happy about how we are spending our money.
We also decided that if we ever get any money from something that isn’t our normal pay, we will discuss where that money is going before spending it on anything. I am very proud of my husband and I for being responsible enough to discuss our problems rather than arguing about them and solving nothing.